Once Upon an Upset by Jessica Laurel Kane is a book of personal stories and lessons she's learned raising her son. Kane presents a story and highlights key takeaways, often citing an experience from her childhood or parenting that has changed her perspective.
She reveals instances of times when caregivers may recycle toxic habits in their haste to avoid explanations or because they're busy, like ending tales with happily ever after.
Through the narrative, Kane discusses ways to set healthy boundaries, encourage interaction between the child and the caregiver, and re-parent while raising a child.
The author touches on ways to recognize children's mental health needs and actions that involve listening instead of reacting.
Jessica Laurel Kane's stories point to problems that exist in certain parenting styles and suggest ways to modify caregiving to include empathy, healthy boundaries, balance, and growth. Kane offers her readers encouragement, relating applicable stories and making assertions that could be used as affirmations.
The book doesn't need to be read in order. Readers may flip to one of the pertinent illustrations and find a story that mirrors their feelings or speaks to their inner child.
Kane has taken the time to reflect on her past and use it to grow as a person, making her a better example for her son.
As a mother of seven children, I battle with finding time to recharge. After reading Kane's stories, I feel like I should allow myself more grace, and it's an empowering feeling. I learned to see myself through the lens of my past and remember my struggles so they do not become my child's hardships.
Once Upon an Upset is a great selection for readers who hope not to repeat toxic cycles with their caregiving and want to feel validation on their healing journey.
